- by Caitlyn de Beer (Self Management Coach & Speaker/ Psychology Lecturer)I’m a positive person by nature – I’m a go-getter and naturally optimistic; gracious a mum at a kids’ party once came up to me and said “Aren’t you that happy person?”. In context she was referring more to my brand than me, but you get the gist.
With a background in Psychology, I entered motherhood feeling relatively prepared, more so on the psyche front than the actual mommying side of things. My first child was born in 2016 and whilst I sobbed much of the first week home from hospital with a somewhat difficult baby, the tears eventually past. Fast-forward 17 months and my son (2nd born) was born in 2017. All was going well at first, I had 4month old and 20month old, had had a killer year at work and entered the holidays as an excited, distracted and very tired mum of 2. It took 2 weeks of holidaying before the wheels fell off. Christmas Day is usually my favourite day of the year. I’m a sucker for tradition and so the fact that I now have kids who can wake up to full sacks had me giddy with excitement in the months leading up to Christmas. I had bought them sacks with their names on them. I had wrapped their gifts at home before our trip to CT. It was going to perfect.
I want to mention at this point that ‘baby blues’ are different to PPD; crying is normal, as is anxiety in motherhood, but when it lasts for longer than a few weeks and feels all consuming – its probably time to see a professional.